Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Give Your Horse a Valentine



  Give Your Horse a Valentine

The words “love” and “horses” usually go together. People usually talk about horses with a little misty-eyed expression on their faces. How can you tell if your horse loves you back? Horses do not express affection as directly as cats and dogs do; after all they do not usually come running up to us, wagging their tails or curl up on our laps while purring.

Horses are prey animals, they require a good deal of personal space to feel safe and secure – so crowding our space does not inherently mean they love us. It tends to mean they are not registering our boundaries.

Here is a real area of confusion; to a horse, healthy boundaries (not rigid, controlling ones) help horses feel safer around us. They have a well-defined bubble of personal space, and rarely do you see horses lingering too close to each other. Even mutual grooming sessions are over relatively quickly.

You may have seen puppy piles or kitten clumps – have you ever seen a foal pile?

You may have seen puppy piles or kitten clumps – have you ever seen a foal pile? Sometimes very young horses may lay on or near their mothers, but Mother Nature dictates that a tangle of legs is the last thing you need if a lion shows up and you have to run for it.
Human beings love touch! Horses love it too – but – they need to feel that their bubble of personal space is safe, first. If a horse has come to learn that his bubble can and will be invaded at any moment, he tends to have one of two main reactions. Either he withdraws and becomes stoic and tolerant, but does not seek touch on his own, or he overreacts and blurts into your space, too! The over friendly horses are just as frustrated with the lack of space respect as the overly stoic ones are.

The remedy? Give your horse a moment before you touch him. Take a big, deep breath, and wait for him to release his breath, too. Pause outside his bubble and wait for him to naturally look your way or lower his head a little. Most horses will even turn away from you with a grand gesture known as “Deferring Space.” When they turn their head away like this, they are showing respect for your bubble, not tuning you out!!

Most horses will even turn away from you with a grand gesture known as “Deferring Space.”

If your horse is a real space invader, then you can ask him to give you a tad more room by simply touching his “Go Away Face” button – located in the center of his large, round cheek. You may have to repeat it several times if he has a long history of bumping into you – and a super tip here is to leave your cuing hand lightly in the air with your pointy finger up, like a librarian asking for quiet. If you put your hand back down to your side too soon, he may think this is a game called, “Go Away – Come Back!’

“How does this turn my horse into a love bug?”

Easy! As soon as your horse realizes that you want to clear up this personal space confusion, they relax!

For some horses, this has been a long, lost battle – and as soon as you clean it up, they feel much, much better – and then they invite you in!

As soon as you clean it up, they feel much, much better – and then they invite you in!

The question you may be asking is, “How do horses show affection to each other?” Horses use the Mid-neck button to drive each other away during a scuffle. Sometimes, you may even see bite marks there. When two horses are really buddies, you will find them sniffing each other’s necks as a sign of real friendship. It basically means, “I won’t bite you and drive you away – you can stay near me.”
If you sniff a horse’s neck, you are sending the same message. I have witnessed many horses grow very still, and then begin blinking, wiggling their lips or even yawning! Every horse reacts uniquely to this message, but if they trust you and enjoy your company, this can be a powerful way to tell them in their own language – the language of Horse Speak – that you love them.

Once you have sniffed your horse’s neck from the ground, (don’t they smell so good?) you can offer to sniff them from their back! I have witnessed many horses become very soft and peaceful or even un-brace in a tense moment. You do not even have to lean all the way down, you can sniff from your position, as long as it is a deep inhale.

Even if you are leading a horse, you could aim your sniffer towards their neck as you walk, and secretly inhale. Once you and your horse have enjoyed this interaction, you will find yourself wanting to offer it again and again. So will your horse! You may find he suddenly starts inhaling as you walk towards him, or that he wants to linger on your knuckles, sniffing deeply.

If he gets over-zealous about inhaling your scent, and you have practiced the Go Away Face button, then there is a polite way to ask him to stop and you have not harmed the sweetness of the offer in any way. The Go Away Face button is the politeness button horses use with each other all the time.

We love our horses so much, isn’t it nice that there is a way to say, “I love you” back to them?

                                                                                                                                                             

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